I love history. I love weddings. So for me finding out about wedding traditions from around the world makes me so intrigued and literally laugh out loud at the same time. It makes you think about how some of these came to be.
Moroccan brides purify themselves with water from their rivers before their wedding.Image from Pinterest
Jewish weddings are meant to be a mixture of joy and sadness. The groom stomps a glass cup held in a napkin as a reminder of the destruction of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem.Image from Pinterest
Fairies seem to be a pest problem in Ireland: brides must keep both feet on the ground while dancing lest those spritely creatures whisk her away. Time to practice your moonwalk! Image from Pinterest
In certain parts of China, brides and their wedding parties practice a month-long crying ritual before the wedding. Each night, the bride sits with her mother, grandmothers, sisters, and aunts for an hour, all crying in unison to form a kind of celebratory “song” to mark the occasion.
In Sweden, it’s a lighthearted tradition for guests to plant kisses on the bride or groom when either leaves the room. In 2016 it’s a gender-neutral game, so anyone can sneak a kiss to the couple!Image from The Buzztube
I don’t know if my family would be up for a group sob session for a whole month before my wedding. Do any of you have any family wedding traditions that you think we our readers would like to hear about. If you do email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
When I got married I made a nod to certain wedding traditions such as my father walking me down the aisle, not seeing the groom before the wedding. Since I grew up in another country I am intrigued by different cultures. I have found a selection for you all that has made me laugh. Enjoy!
In Wales, brides give cuttings of myrtle to their bridesmaids as a token of affection and good luck. If a bridesmaid plants her cutting and it takes root, she will be the next to marry! I have never heard of this one. Any of you?
In Poland, the bride and groom must pass through a series of gates or checkpoints guarded by members of their bridal party. To get through these “passing gates,” the couple must give the gatekeepers a little vodka.
Mexican weddings involve a “lassoing” of the bride and groom: the ceremony’s officiant wraps a cord around the couple in a figure eight to represent eternal love and unity.
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Many couples in Italy believe getting married on a Tuesday or Friday is bad luck.
In Australian weddings, each guest holds a stone during the ceremony, then places it in a large bowl as a beautiful keepsake for the couple. I think this is a lovely gesture.
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Couples in the Netherlands host a pre-wedding cocktail party for their bridesmaids and groomsmen. It’s a great way to relax and set the mood for the day!
In the Czech Republic, the wedding party plants a tree on the couple’s big day, decorating it with technicolor ribbons and painted eggshells.
It used to be common practice in French villages for the groom to walk with his bride through the streets on their wedding day. Children would string white ribbons across the road in front of the couple that the bride would cut as she passed through.
In Scotland, some brides endure the “blackening of the bride,” or a public humiliation ritual in which she is covered in molasses, mud, paint, and feathers—all to prepare her for the trials of lifelong commitment.
In parts of China, it’s customary for brides to wear three distinct looks for their wedding: a traditional embroidered gown for the ceremony, a Western-style wedding dress for the reception, and a cocktail dress for an after party. How much fun would that be!
I hope that you have enjoyed the reading about these golbal wedding traditions. I find it so intriguing at how different we all are. ~ Kate
Vintage Bride Sophie has been exploring the tradition behind giving wedding favours and has found some beautiful vintage inspired favour ideas…
The tradition of giving wedding favours
Favours have been given to guests at parties and weddings for many, many years. The tradition of the favour is an extremely old one, originating in Europe. Aristocrats would present their fancy party guests with boxes, often embellished with gems and jewels containing sugar cubes. Sugar used to be extremely expensive and was considered a complete luxury so to be presented with a favour like this was such a treat!
As sugar became affordable, favours (or bonbonnieres) evolved. Have you ever been given sugared almonds as a favour before? I know I have and it was only through researching this post that I discovered why! Traditionally, five sugared almonds should be presented in a small box or bag tied with ribbon. The five almonds represent fertility, longevity, wealth, health and happiness and the almonds themselves, teamed with the sweetness of the sugar symbolise the bitter-sweetness of marriage. How lovely is that?! They also happen to be super cheap so if you want tradition on a budget this is surely favour perfection!
However, I feel that (especially in recent years) favours have evolved again. You brides and grooms are more creative than ever and the development of social media means there is more inspiration at your finger tips than ever before! **cough cough PINTEREST cough**
We chose to give small jam jars filled with tiny rhubarb and custard sweets topped with mismatched floral fabric. They were easy to make, cheap and they looked really effective on the tables with the mismatched china. However, I do wish we’d perhaps put more thought into what people would want as we were left with a lot of jars of sweets at the end of the night! Needless to say our dentist wasn’t happy at our next check up
What did you choose or what do you have planned? Have you received a spectacular favour you’d care to share? Will you be making your own favours or will you be calling on help or paying someone to provide them? Do you think favours are a terrible waste of money and will you be donating to charity or using the money saved for something else? I would love to know!
DIY bride Sarah is back again, with her opinion on the delicate balance of customs and rituals – and why sometimes choosing to ignore wedding traditions competely can be the best option.
Sarah & Tzevai’s Wedding – shot by Maria Farrelly
Weddings are a tricky time. Everyone seems to have an opinion on most of the things you’re doing, and all the opinions are different (and quite often different to yours, too). There are a million traditions and so many people will tell you that you have to do this and you absolutely cannot skip this. It’s very difficult to go against tradition, especially if you’ve got pressure on all sides from friends and family who mean well, but are suggesting something that you don’t feel fits in with your day.
Take it from a bride almost 8 months down the road from her wedding: do what you want to do. It’s your wedding, right? If you don’t want to throw your bouquet or have readings at your ceremony then don’t, nobody can tell you it’s not a real wedding without those things. We didn’t do many of the usual traditions and nobody complained or rolled their eyes at us (or if they did we didn’t see it!) and it meant we had a day that was truly unique and memorable to us :)
People like wedding customs – sometimes it’s nice to incorporate an element that your parents had, or make up a new tradition entirely (like Sophie and Gareth, who stood on a rug during their vows so they could keep the spot they got married on forever). If you’re finding yourself railroaded by well meaning folk it might be worth asking them exactly why they would like you to include that tradition (“because it’s tradition!” it not an acceptable answer). Then you can work together to create customs and rituals that you’re comfortable with instead.
Here’s a list of traditions we decided not to adhere to in our wedding, and why:
1. The bouquet toss
My flowers were made from paper and I have terrible aim. Besides which, Tzevai spent so long making them for me I couldn’t bear to toss it after all that – mine is still sitting in our living room on proud display :)
2. Thegarter Some people like them, I don’t. I certainly couldn’t imagine Tzevai taking it off with his teeth in front of a room full of our friends and family, although apparently this is the tradition on the other side of the pond.
3. Flower girls & page boys Altho we have nephews and a niece that were the right kind of age we decided to stick with the bridesmaids and ushers and forgo the little ones. No real reason, mostly just to save a bit of money! :) Plus it meant they could sit with their parents during the ceremony and not worry about doing their part ‘wrong’.
4. Fancy suits My dress was rather informal and we thought it would be weird if Tzevai the boys were in super formal attire so he wore grey trousers with a matching waistcoat plus a smart shirt and a yellow tie, and the boys were in plain white shirts with navy ties. It really didn’t bother us that they didn’t all look the same, and nobody mentioned anything on the day. I once went to a wedding where the mother of the groom insisted they weren’t allowed to take off their jackets until the end of the speeches, which is pretty much my idea of hell and definitely something we didn’t want for our wedding!
Anyone reading this by now should know that I love to talk, so Tzevai and I decided to do a joint speech together, instead of just him doing one on his own and me sitting by demurely. It was so much fun! We sort of winged it, but it went well and now we have the nice memory of doing it together :)
6. Addressing the invites just so.
There are so many rules around addressing invites, it’s kind of ridiculous. In the end we wrote people’s first names (no surnames) on the envelopes and didn’t write their names on the invites at all. Who cares? Life is too short to double envelope everything and make sure you’ve got the right title for all your guests. Slap a name on, call it done and make yourself a gin. (If you’re stuck about who to invite check out Charlie’s post on invitations!)
7. The cake smash Just. No. No. I didn’t spend all that time doing my makeup for my new groom to smush cake all over it, thank you very much ;)
8. Not seeing each other the night before We didn’t really want to spend the night apart, especially since that meant one of us would be in a foreign room to usual. The plan was for us to have a nice, calm breakfast together and then the girls would come over and he would go off and play golf. In reality I woke up feeling ill at 4am and didn’t get back to sleep, so our breakfast was him munching a bacon butty and me clutching a mug of peppermint tea, heh. I can only imagine how much worse I’d have felt waking up feeling ill on my own tho, so I’m glad he was there!
9. The groom not seeing the dress I don’t believe in luck so it didn’t bother me showing Tzevai the dress before the wedding day. I’m not supersticious, how could him seeing a garment curse our wedding? My dress was a little unusual, so I wanted to show him to make sure he liked it, rather than see a look of horror as I walked down the aisle ;)
10. The groom standing on the right hand side of the bride I always stand to the right of Tzevai and I didn’t want to change that just because that’s the side he should stand on to be able to access the sword that he wouldn’t be wearing. (Some traditions are so outdated, it amuses me when you see registrars and officiants insisting on them!). In actual fact we decided to face each other rather than standing together facing the registrar, as we thought it would be nice for our guests to see us rather than the backs of our heads :)
Our best advice for someone under pressure is to take a deep breath, step back for a moment and really look at the problem. If you feel like you really don’t want to have a first dance – then it’s okay to skip it. Would rather walk down the aisle with mum and dad? Or just mum? Or neither?! Go ahead! Try not to worry too long about what your guests might think, wedding planning is stressful enough without a ton of ‘what ifs’ as well.
As long as you’re married at the end of the day then your wedding will have been a success – so don’t fret too much about the small stuff :) You can always go your own way (and in celebration of that: here’s a bit of vintage Fleetwood Mac! :) )
Got a question about wedding traditions you need help with? Feel free to send it in to the Cwtch team (email@example.com) and we’ll see what we can do to help!