Throw Back Thursday: A Selection of Non-Religious Readings

We all love this post – its brilliantly helpful when you’re looking for some inspiration on readings for your wedding that aren’t Corinthians! So here you go. First posted in 2013, our previous bride-to-be Charlie, now married and with a baby on the way, talked about picking readings for a non-religious ceremony. Over once again, to you Charlie…..x

Throw Back Thursday: A Selection of Non-Religious Readings

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Hello lovely readers!

This week I am sharing with you some non-religious readings, a simple way of making a civil ceremony a lot more personal. Before I start, I almost feel like I should put a disclaimer on this post for those of you who have already selected your readings because of what happened to me!

Mark and I had chosen three readings, confirmed them with the registrar, found readers to read them and printed off our orders of ceremony and then about three nights before the wedding I came across this reading from Stardust (which was the first film Mark and I saw together- him under duress!) and I nearly cried because I loved it so much and couldn’t have it, so proceed with caution!

The Stardust reading

Yvaine: You know when I said I knew little about love? That wasn’t true. I know a lot about love. I’ve seen it; I’ve seen centuries and centuries of it. It’s the only thing that made watching your world bearable.

All the wars, pain, lies, and hate, made me want to turn away and never look down again. But to see the way that mankind loves! I mean you could search the furthest reaches of the universe and never find anything more beautiful.

So, yes I know that love is unconditional, but I also know it can be unpredictable, unexpected, uncontrollable, unbearable, and strangely easy to mistake for loathing. And, well, what I’m trying to say, Tristan, is.. I think I love you.

My heart it feels like my chest can barely contain it, like it doesn’t belong to me anymore; it belongs to you, and if you wanted it, I’d wish for nothing in exchange: no gifts, no goods, no demonstrations of devotion, nothing, but knowing you love me, too. Just your heart in exchange for mine.

Sigh!

As I mentioned above, we had three readings and I think they worked really well – we had a lot of comments about how personal our ceremony was and that was what I was hoping for. Deciding who will do the readings for you can be difficult! It is a daunting thing for some people to get up and speak in front of a room full of people and I know some people have found it hard to find willing volunteers!

Mark knew he wanted to ask his best man and as he’s a confident guy that was no problem, that left us with two. Initially I tested the water with my bridesmaids but as suspected they were all quite hesitant and I didn’t want anyone to do anything they weren’t totally comfortable with. I then thought about two other people close to me, my two cousins Jade and Amy. What with Amy being a teacher I was pretty sure that she would be fine, but Jade hates being the centre of attention so I was cautious about asking her but to my delight they both said yes and did an amazing job!

These were the readings we had:

But if those don’t float your boat (don’t worry I won’t be offended!) I have plenty more inspiration for you. This one comes from the lovely Budget-bride Sarah’s wedding: I love you much (most beautiful darling) by ee cummings and it is a beauty.

Dr Seuss fan’s this one is for you! Oh the places you’ll go makes a beautiful but light hearted reading, it is quite long though so you may want to have it abridged!

Do we have any couples with a Scottish connection? This is a great two person reading, with one person reading the application and one the appointment, preferably a married couple in my humble opinion:

Bidie-in by Diana Hendry and Hamish Whyte

Application

O Let me be your bidie-in

And keep you close within

As dearest kith and kin

I promise I’d be tidy in

Whatever bed or bunk you’re in

I’d never ever drink your gin

I’d be your multi-vitamin

I’d wear my sexy tiger-skin

And play my love-sick mandolin

It cannot be a mortal sin

To be in such a dizzy spin

I’d like to get inside your skin

I’d even be your concubine

I hope you know I’m genuine

O let me be your bidie-in

Appointment

Of course, you may be my bidie-in

You didn’t need to apply within

A braw new world’s about to begin

We’ll gang thegether through thick and thin

We’ll walk unscathed through burr & whin

If you’re to be my porcupin

I’ll just have to bear it and grin

I’ll be your sheik,your djinn

I’ll be yang to your yin

You’ll be my kitten,my mitten,my terrapin.

All night long we’ll make love’s sweet din

And never mind the wheelie-bin

In our romantic cinema there’ll be no FIN

And so I say again – you’re in- You’ve got the job of bidie in!

I absolutely love this one by Coulson Macleod, his typography prints are so beautiful! I also love this poem by Joyce Ebrecht, it makes me think of being an old married couple :) With that in mind I also found this one which brings tears to my eyes: The beauty of love.

If you are a book lover why not take an extract from your favourite book as a child? Even better if both of you have a favourite book and you can take a reading from each, I have seen it done with books such as Winnie the Pooh and The Velveteen Rabbit and I think it works so well.

I hope that by now you have found some inspiration but just in case you haven’t (as we are indeed a WELSH wedding blog!) I will leave you with the lovely Mi gerddi gyda thi complete with translation!

“Mi gerddaf gyda thi dros lwybrau maith
A blodau can a breuddwyd ar ein taith
I’th lygaid syllaf a dal dy law
Mi gerddaf gyda thi beth bynnag ddaw”.

“I will walk with you across distant paths
Flowers and dreams will bless our journey
Into your eyes I will gaze and holding your hand
I will walk with you whatever may come”.

Have you found readings that you love? Have you decided not to have readings? If you have any readings that I haven’t included (I know there are bound to be loads!) please share them in the comments box, I would love to read them and I’m sure our readers will too :)

Charlie x

Non-Religious Wedding Readings: Part 8

We are adding to our collection of wedding readings all the time, here is another one from Homemade Bride Kate.

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This beautiful poem was read by the lovely Hannah at my sister’s wedding. Christy asked her to do a reading but she wanted it to be a surprise. Now for those of you who have been married you know you need to submit all readings into the registrar. So my sister was very well behaved and kept it in its envelope and didn’t hear it till the day. Now I might be bias but I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

Non-Religious Wedding Readings: Part 7

Today I have a little quote to add to our series of Non-Religious Wedding Readings. A religious ceremony can still use non-religious wedding readings but not vice versa so it is one of the things we get asked for help with the most. We will keep carrying on finding more and more inspiration for you! the-pursuit-of-love-nancy-mitford
I love this little quote. It is so true. Until I met my husband I didn’t understand what people meant when they said “You will know when you meet The One.” The day I met him I totally got it!
Nobody has a whole heart just half a heart. The middle side is like a puzzle piece. Sometimes we try to get two pieces together, but instead it creates friction, scratches on the surface, and hurts like hell, but that doesn’t mean our heart’s useless. No matter how damaged they may get they are never useless, but when you find the one person who does fit that’s when you know you’re happy. Never give up and keep on going and make sure to listen to your heart, you just might find the other piece.

 

– Jacob Guerrero

We would love to hear from you in the comments section if you would like to share your favourite wedding readings with our readers. We will endeavour to come up with more and more inspiration for you and would also love you to get in touch if we have helped you find your non-religious wedding reading!

New Series: Non-Religious Wedding Readings Part 2

Last month we started a new series on Non-Religious wedding readings for a civil ceremony. Non-religious readings can be read as part of a religious ceremony but religious readings can not be read as part of a civil ceremony so we are making it our mission to try and introduce you to as many beautiful non-religious readings as possible! Homemade bride Kate kicked off with Part 1 and is back again today with Part 2.

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This is the reading that I had at my wedding. Sean’s father did an amazing job reading this and there wasn’t a dry eye in the house. I still love this reading. I hope it gives you the same feeling as it gave me.

“Union” by Robert Fulghum

 

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks — all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” — those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” — and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed — well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another  — acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this is my husband, this is my wife.

What do you think?! I hope our new series is proving helpful! We will be back next month with the next instalment x

 

New Series: Non-Religious Wedding Readings Part 1

One thing we get asked for time and again is non-religious wedding readings for a civil ceremony. We have featured posts on non-religious wedding readings, alternative wedding readings and readings for a vintage wedding but there are so many fantastic readings out there that we have now decided to start a new series of posts with lots for you to choose from. Homemade bride Kate starts us off with some from the legend that is Bob Marley.

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Bob Marley will always be remembered for his music that has transcended through all ages and races. This is where I would like to point out that he was also an inspirational man and his quotes on love and life should always be remembered. I love these two and think they would be very fitting in any wedding.

He’s not perfect

He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.

Only once in your life

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” 

We will be back next month with more non-religious readings, if you have any suggestions for us we’d love you to get in touch :)