Groom to be Diaries: Our RAF Grooms are sorting the details!

Hello Cwtchers!

The RAF boys are back and the realisation that the big day is ever enriching and only four months away, is spurring them on to finalise those finer details….

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Hey everyone – we hope you are all good!

Well we are now within the last four months to the wedding day itself and it is starting to sink in what we have left to do!  We have just come back from a friend’s wedding in Turkey (which was amazing!) and it has highlighted all the small things that we haven’t thought of.

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Some of which were quite big ones such as the bridesmaids’ dresses, but with some help from the bride she pointed us in the direction of some great online sites that she used.

Within one week of the holiday being over, the dresses had arrived – James now needs to get his bridesmaids together to try them on. Fingers crossed he has gotten their sizes right.

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The other bits being the bridesmaid flower posies and table decorations for the evening entertainment etc.

It has definitely crept up quickly and although the major planning has taken place, like the venue, catering, flowers etc, all the small things are definitely getting overlooked and give you a bit of sense of shock when you realise.

I know there is the stigma that a gay wedding is usually flamboyant and possibly overdone, but the things we have forgotten are all the finite feminine touches that a bride would usually bring to the wedding. James is such a bad bride (Lol!)  However we have had  such a busy period over the past six months with my job and James in between jobs since leaving the Air Force, that the time has flown without us realising.

Within the past two weeks we have tried our suits on during the initial fitting which definitely put a massive smile on face seeing James so dressed up. He is such a hot cutie when he dresses up! We have another date in September when the Best Man and the Ushers arrive for their fitting.  My aim is to lose a bit of the podge I’ve gathered whilst being at home with James and eating contently! ☹

We are off to Berkeley Castle next week to see our new wedding event co-ordinator who wants to go through the detail with us.

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We are so fortunate to have an amazing team at Berkeley Castle – such a god send when planning.
The visit will give us the opportunity to finalise some thoughts in our head to the decorations throughout the castle that we just haven’t quite thought of yet. If I had my way I would definitely blow our budget on the decorations.

So the next time we write one of these it would be just before the wedding and we will highlight any of the last minute prep, plus James will have had his ‘hen’ do in September to Ibiza, whilst due to work, my Stag do is the weekend before the wedding. RAF Grooms July 7I am not sure if that’s a good thing but we will see!!!!

Groom to Be Diaries: The RAF Grooms are getting somewhere!

Good morning one and all

We have our handsome boys back to talk about how their planning is going! However, it would appear that Cwtchfest is responsible for some extra spending going on! Sorry boys!

Have a read about what else they’ve been up to…..

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Hey everyone it is us again- the RAF Grooms to be, and I bet that many of the other couples will agree with us in that time is flying by way too quick.

After proposing over a year ago, we only have just over six months to go.  Plus I am 22 this month! #FeelingOld #GettingOld.
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Well I have ordered my suit (finally). It’s a beautiful blue three piece outfit (but with a twist that I am keeping a secret for Mike to see on the day.) Mike…well he hasn’t even got that far yet. Typical groom leaving it to the last minute.

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Being the ‘Wife’ (as Mike calls me) I finally have my two maid of honours sorted. I am allowed two because I am not a usual bride to be and it is my wedding after all! The Hag (Hen/Stag) do is finally booked for Ibiza … which is just me and 4 girls going on a boozing holiday! I literally can’t wait. But I am having another one in October for everyone else. It is just an excuse to get some last minute tanning in.

We have sent out the day time invites to our guests, which the RSVPs have started to slowly trickle in, all positive in attendance which is great news. We designed the invites ourselves and only cost us around £25 for them all. They are nothing fancy but we are using an online free website to display all the information and details, and all our guests have to do is log in and follow the details.

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The invitations were all sent out with a wax stamp with our initials on it that we bought during our holiday trip to Venice last year. (They are just like the ones in Hogwarts!- yes I am a Harry Potter Fan). We have even created our own hashtag, where we are are encouraging our guests to post as many photos of the day on Instagram.We have started using it to post our own photos on it too of us together.  Feel free to have a look #JandMDY.

We have bought all our wedding favours too. Mike came up with the idea of individual sweet pick’a’mix jars so we have bought everything apart from the sweets. Mike thinks I will eat them all before the day so we are not buying them just yet.
To be fair he is probably right.

Finally last month we attended Cwtch The Bride’s #Cwtchfest2017 and caught up with our fabulous photographer, Maria Farrelly. Although we only stayed for a couple of hours the event was amazing.

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The live music being played definitely put you in the mood for a wedding and a party. We met so many stall holders that have given us more food for thought, even getting a few items from LUMI Designs for the big day. Obviously seeing Maria again was great, especially as Mike hadn’t met Maria yet. All three of us got on so well and we definitely felt the enthusiasm, passion and energy she has, so we are super excited to have chosen Maria. It is a great feeling in that we know we have the right person by far to capture our day.  The final part of the day was being attacked with hugs from one of the bubbliest people I’ve ever met – our friend Anna, Features Editor for Cwtch The Bride, and who works with Maria. I swear those two are sisters.

Well fellow bloggers I will leave it at that for the moment……only 6 months now till the BIG DAY!!!

Grooms to Be Diaries: The RAF Grooms are on Planning Overload!

Happy Thursday everyone!

Our boys are back, and they’re feeling a little over whelmed! With ten months to go, they’re feeling a little up to their eyes with it all. Over to Mike to full you in…..

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The RAF Grooms are on Planning Overload!

When we first started planning the wedding it started really well, we knew what we wanted and what we didn’t want in our wedding.

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Since then as time continues to dwindle we seem to be behind the drag curve in respects to our timeline. Mostly because I’m away with work;image4and James is currently working six days a week. (The sixth day is his training day in preparation for becoming a Special Constable with Wiltshire Police, as he leaves the RAF in May)

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Our biggest controversy has been the guest list which has been critiqued, shall we say, for the lack of family we invited, as it became clear some family members felt put out by being left out, despite not seeing them for years.

We both have large families, a large circle of friends together and also separate so it was always going to be difficult. We think and hope it is resolved now.

In terms of actual wedding plans we managed to get the majority of it sorted immediately, but being typically gay and influenced by fashion (James mostly!) and very picky (Me!) we would change our minds a lot and still do.

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We were good in booking a band, a florist and the venue with ease. Actually James booked the venue before I even saw it! (Berkeley Castle, Gloucestershire) However this guy knows me well and he chose perfectly. It was a castle built to keep the Welsh out for Henry VIII, trouble is it hasn’t worked as James’ family are all Welsh!

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The Florist was a lovely lady who runs the flower shop in town and very competitive prices, so with a massive thanks to my mum and her husband Shaun who have agreed to pay for the flowers, we have lovely array of red and white with touches of blue.

So really it’s the finer details that has been left to be organised which are the finalising the catering for the evening food, the decorations, the wines and the table linen. So if any of your readers have any good knowledge on table linen then let us know please! (We are just wary we don’t want to hire the cloths when they cost the same as buying one (this is the picky side in me!)

Oh and the wedding cake – how can I forget that part?! We aren’t sure yet how we are going to tackle this. Whether it is an actual cake made for us costing hundreds of pounds designed to our every needs, or it is a few M&S fruit and sponge cakes decorated to perfection. But with a 100 invited to the day with further 80 in the evening, we know it has got to be good.

We still have ten months to go, so we are confident we will get the smaller but trickier items squared away in good time. It would be great to see what your other readers and couples have done in terms of wedding cakes and table linen etc.

Don’t worry boys! You will get it sorted! Its can get pretty overwhelming.  Looking forward to hearing more x

Groom To Be Diaries: Introducing James & Mike, Our RAF Grooms

Good morning Cwtchers!
We have a wonderful new blogger to introduce to you! We have the pleasure of introducing James and Mike, our RAF grooms and our new Groom Diary piece!

James and Mike, both in the RAF met online, and haven’t stopped the love since!  

We have so much about these two to tell you already, but for now, over to James to tell us all about how they met, and that proposal….

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Introducing James & Mike, Our RAF Grooms

How it all began!

On a cold crisp day, whilst down in Cornwall for my friends sister’s wedding, I had friend request off this guy (Mike).

We started chatting and getting to know each other and I fell for him instantly.

He was kind and charming and just made me laugh all the time.

I wanted to meet Mike but he was based out in RAF Akrotiri, Cyprus. Not somewhere I could just pop in my car and go to.

So after more weeks chatting getting to know each other, Mike invited me out to Cyprus, and I thought, ‘yeah why not let’s do it!’ haha.

So, we booked my flight from RAF Brize Norton and it was to land at RAF Akrotiri at 1630 hrs on the 16th May 2015.

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I was so nervous. As I waited patiently for my bags I was thinking, this could either be the best thing I have ever done or the worst, but either way, I was determined to go for it.

And then there he was, waiting outside the terminal for me, and my smile just grew with his beauty.

We did so many things while out in Cyprus; scuba diving, snorkelling, hired a buggy for a few days, and explored pretty much the whole island of Cyprus.

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It was by far the best first date ever.

A few months later Mike was posted back to the UK and our relationship grew.

It was amazing.

We saw a show in London, went for amazing food at one of Gordon Ramsey’s restaurants and many other wonderful dates.

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We have been back to Cyprus three times and to Venice……where he almost proposed :P

However, in April, Mike had to go away with work. He needs to travel constantly for his new job, and I miss him like mad when he is gone.

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Two days after he had left, I had a parcel through the post.  It was from Mike.

I opened it to find there were hundreds of M&Ms.

On them were pictures of Mike and I etched on, with the words, ‘Will You Marry Me?’

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Of course I said yes…..and before you knew it we were engaged.

Ooooooooooohhhh we are so excited for you all to find out more about these two! Its such a wonderful story! And we get to hear all about in on the run up to their 2017 wedding! Cannot wait!