Who doesn’t love a vintage wedding?! So imagine a genuine 60’s wedding to gush over! Well you’re in for a treat. Meet my wonderful Mum and Dad, Barrie and Judy. I have spent my entire life looking at these gorgeous images of their big day.
I used to sit up in the attic in my Mums wedding dress, holding the wedding favour of the cats you can see in one of the images, flicking through their album. So I am now over the moon to be able to share this load of gorgeousness with the rest of you.
I have only recently realised however, just how remarkable it is to have them and just how lucky we are. Not only do we have this moment in time captured to treasure whenever we want, but there are also some in colour!
I have always been inspired by my Mum and Dad’s big day, loving the colours and my Mum’s shoes! (I can remember asking where they were and if I could have them. I was met with laughter). I also love that my husband Richie was inspired by the images, and chose his suit based on my Dads! So, over to my Mum and Dad to tell you more about their big day….
Barrie and Judith 1963
How old were you when you met?
16 and Barrie was 19
How did you meet?
We met in the Royal Albert in Newport. Its doesn’t exist anymore, its where River Island or something is now. Barrie was with his friend Ted, and he told his friend not to turn around as there was two girls (myself and my friend Pam) coming in and they’re only after your money. They ended up coming over to us while we sat their looking coy, and buying us a drink. Then he asked me if he could take me home. Barrie walked me to the door and asked me out on another date. Because he took me home, I wondered if Ted had taken Pam home and was asking her out, so wasn’t sure whether to say yes if Pam hadn’t said yes!! We didn’t know them from Adam.
I decided to say yes anyway!
Tell us abut your first date
Judy: *laughs* I can’t remember! I can’t even remember where we went! Logically we would have gone to the pictures because everybody did in those days. That or the pub, were the only places to go. It was just me and your Dad in the end, although Pam and Ted did end up marrying as well!
How did the proposal go?
Judy: Its funny as we were talking about that a while ago. He never actually did! He ask my Dad and we just decided to get in engaged. He never actually asked ‘will you marry me’. We just thought, ‘lets get engaged’. We went shopping for the ring together, a diamond solitaire, a very lovely ring. Who knows where it is now! The last thing I remember about it, we had a gas fire on the wall in our first family home, and I took it off and put it on there while I was vacuuming and it vanished! We even took the fire off the wall to look and it was gone! Im on my third engagement ring now, after various replacements.
Tell us about your wedding planning
Judy: *big sigh* We went to see the Dean of Monmouth because where we lived was associated with the cathedral, so had to go for lessons on how to be married.
My Uncle Bobby was the florist in the market so he supplied the flowers – spring flowers; daffodils, freesias and iris.
My Dad had a friend, Arthur, who worked at the South Wales Argus office as a photographer, so he asked if he could do the photographs. He said he would and also took coloured photos which was ever so fancy at the time!
I think we only had one car and that was probably a Daimler! It was cream anyway. And that took me and my Dad to the Cathedral and I think, my Mum and the bridesmaids were in a black one. No idea what that was though!
Barrie’s Dad was a baker, and I asked if he could make our cake to match our bridesmaids who were in pale lemon, pale blue and pink. He made a beautiful job. He did it in a wedgwood style, absolutely beautifully done.
Planning was only a big deal if you had a lot of money. If you didn’t, like us, you asked favours off family or they offer, like my cousin Marilyn did my hair (she did every week anyway mind).
I never knew exactly what I wanted, but I do know it was always up to us. My Mum and Dad and Barrie’s Mum and Dad didn’t really get involved except if we asked for their help.
Barrie: I had arranged the wedding car/cars ? with Cookson taxis, giving them a detailed map where to collect the Bride etc with eta’s
Where did you get married?
What was your budget?
Barrie: I cannot remember what budget we had, but would have been in proportion to my wage as a draughtsman which then was about £8.00 a week.
Tell us about your dress?
Judy: It was white lace, long, and with little white rose buds around the neck line, and long sleeves. A dress I will never part with. I wore a short veil and a diamond tiara. White lace shoes.
Tell us about your bridal party (bridesmaids, best men etc)
Judy: I had my friend, Wendy (Barrie’s Best Man John’s fiancé), Barrie’s sister Sue and as a flower girl, Lorraine who was Barrie’s cousin.
Whats your most lasting memory of your big day?
Judy: The sun shone all day. At that time there were no evening parties. So after the reception we left and drove straight up to London.
Barrie: Amongst the wonderful bits, I remember I was hungover! The night before the wedding, as was normal then, I had my stag party which turned out to be a tour of the pubs in Caerleon. There would have been about 20 blokes including my best man John Golding. I managed to lose my Dad`s raincoat which I had borrowed, and throw a dart that bounced back off the dartboard and into a ladies boob. Not very popular with her husband.
Which is your favourite wedding photograph and why?
Judy: They were all of lovely memories, and we were lucky enough to have some in colour, which was quite unusual at the time. Barrie had a friend at the Argus who brought the coloured camera! We’re so lucky.
Do you have any tips for a long lasting marriage
Barrie: I do as I am told!
Barrie and Judy went on to have three gorgeous children (the third born was particularly amazing!!!), a boy and two girls, and as of this March, have been happily married for 52 years! I am constantly amazed by my parents, and being able to sit and look through their wedding pictures and being reminded that they too were (very) young once, is such a pleasure and a privilege, one I will never get bored of. Love you Mum and Dad xx