Featured Post: Those First Dance Dilemmas

When it comes to a first dance, it can be quite a bone of contention. I mean, these days, who slow dances! It quite possibly could be the first time you ever DO slow dance with your new partner in crime!

But if you’re having a dilemma, then read on – you’re not the first and won’t be the last, and we are hopefully here to help! 

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Those First Dance Dilemmas

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Choose a type of music

You’d ideally want to be dancing to something that you both enjoy listening to! No point in you want a bit of Jucko Timberlake and your other half wanting NWA!
If you have complete polar opposite tastes when it comes to music, your best bet is to perhaps choose a classic.  Something Motown, or by a gorgeously smooth crooner like Nat King Cole. Stylish stuff.

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Meaningful words?

Is it essential that you have a song with meaningful words in or is the tune the best bit? Well this is tricky. There are so many beautiful sounding songs out there, but lyrically, they can be little inappropriate. I remember I had a favourite, I wanted to walk down the aisle to it as well as have it for our first dance.  I thought I should probably check what it was about before we firmed up the decision.

Turns out, it was about breaking up with someone and leaving a toxic relationship – you know, super cheery stuff!

Needless to say, we knocked that one on the head.

Just do a bit of research!

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Are you going fast or slow?

A lot of couples are not altogether comfortable with the slow dancing thing.  Its just not their bag, and to an extent, I can see why.

It seems kind of personal, a slow intimate moment between and new husband and wife, yet there is a ring of people around you clapping and taking pictures?!

So you may feel more comfortable, just dancing with each other, the way you would in a couple.  Drink in hand, having a boogie to your favourite tune!

Somebody part of the wedding party would find it hard not to join in with you!

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Dance Routine?

You could always opt for a routine.  If you’re up for it, getting something absolutely sorted before you step on that dance floor and just start swaying round in a circle (my personal favourite), can be golden! It gets everybody cheering, its brilliant to watch and the rest of your party cannot wait to join you on the dance floor!


Ideally, you’re looking for a piece of music that means something to you.  If you don’t mind a little bit of attention, have a moment, have THE moment, when its just you two and the rest of the room is a blur.  You’re singing each other and could be the only two in the room.

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The point is, there is no right or wrong way to do it. As with the rest of your day, this is about what you both want. Heck, you don’t even have to have a first dance. But if you do, rock out, the way you both want to.  Its the start of the party after all!

Anna and Richie B&W First Dance (1 of 1)Image by Maria Farrelly

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Non Religious Reading: Metallica- Nothing Else Matters

Well after the epic weekend of #Cwtchfest2016 we are still all on cloud nine! Thought we would give you a little food for thought. Finding a non religious reading can be pretty hard. I know that my husband and I had loads of debates. This is actually the song that I walked up the aisle to but it was the words that spoke to me more than the actual song.When I showed them to my mother in law she cried. I also knew that, Metallica-Nothing Else Matters, was one of my husbands favourite songs so it was a winner. I love the sentiment of what is being said and I hope that you don’t get scared off just because it is by a metal band. What do you think….?  ~Kate


Photo Credit: Maria Farrelly

“Nothing Else Matters”

So close no matter how far
Couldn’t be much more from the heart
Forever trusting who we are
And nothing else mattersNever opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I don’t just say
And nothing else mattersTrust I seek and I find in you
Every day for us something new
Open mind for a different view
And nothing else matters

Never cared for what they do
Never cared for what they know
But I know

So close no matter how far
Couldn’t be much more from the heart
Forever trusting who we are
And nothing else matters

Never cared for what they do
Never cared for what they know
But I know

I never opened myself this way
Life is ours, we live it our way
All these words I don’t just say
And nothing else matters

Trust I seek and I find in you
Every day for us something new
Open mind for a different view
And nothing else matters

Never cared for what they say
Never cared for games they play
Never cared for what they do
Never cared for what they know
And I know

So close no matter how far
Couldn’t be much more from the heart
Forever trusting who we are
No nothing else matters

The First Dance: Do We? Don’t We?

The First Dance for many (grooms especially) appears to be next in line as the most nerve wracking thing after speeches. But Why?

Have you been putting off discussing this part of the day? hoping it’ll go away? Is you’re other half refusing out right to do it? Or are you struggling as a couple to think of something to dance to?

If so, Listen up! Today we’re pleased to have Nathan, The Lead vocalist from The Duplicates back on the blog again!  This time, he’s sharing his experiences and offering his advice on that all important First Dance. 

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As the lead vocalist in a busy wedding band I get to not only witness, but sing or hit the ‘Play’ button on more than my fair share of first dances. Some good, some bad. Some unique and some predictable. Some that are memorable, and not always for the right reasons. Here, I’ll run you through some of the things I’ve learnt first hand about the first dance and share a few tips to ensure you get yours right.

As with most things, the first dance is subject to trends. With every year that passes there will be that one song that keeps cropping up more than others and trends have also influenced the type of dance couples go for. A few years ago the choreographed routine reigned supreme. Couples took lessons to deliver a showboat production that often seemed more about ‘going viral’ than an expression of love. Then came the rise of the ‘remix’ dance, where the couple begin by shuffling along to something slow before a louder, funkier tune takes over, the Groom whips a comedy wig and glasses from the Bride’s cleavage, everybody gyrates furiously and the whole thing crescendoes with the Maid of Honour attempting a backflip and duly makes her way toward ‘Epic Wedding Fail’ compilation video stardom.

There was then a period where I found that opting not to have a first dance at all became increasingly common, whereas currently, ‘Get my friends and family to join in’ is King. For now, at least, dancing with your partner while your loved ones take to the floor along side you is the most popular option for my couples. The important thing to remember is that you have a number of options, which includes not having a first dance. Don’t feel pressured to do it because of tradition. It’s your day and you can do what you like! Particularly if one or even both of you feel that strongly opposed to the idea of it. No matter what you go for, just be sure your expectations are realistic and you’re both comfortable with it.

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Choosing A Song

Choosing a song is a different experience for every couple. For some, it’s a simple “that’s our song” and hey presto, they’re done. For others, it can be a minefield: you met on the dancefloor of your local nightclub to the strains of Sir MixAlot’s ‘Baby Got Back’ and that isn’t going to cut it.

Your other half loves Metallica while you’re an Ed Sheeran sort of girl, and you can’t bear the idea of everyone you know finding out that the only dance move you can perform with any proficiency is ‘The Worm’ (and the last time you did that you were 19, in Butlins, had drunk a bottle of Tequila and dislocated your shoulder).

If you and your partner’s musical tastes contrast and you simply cannot come to an agreement then you should use what I like to call “The Last.FM approach”. Last.FM is a musical streaming service that suggests songs based on an analysis of the musical properties of the music that you tell them you like. For example, imagine I love Elvis but the ol’ ball and chain is a Soul Music nut – Last.fm may suggest “I Can’t Help Falling in Love with You“. One of Elvis’ biggest hits as recorded by soul icons, The Stylistics.

Once you’ve settled on a song there’s a few things you need to consider.

Do you want the band to play it or stick with the original recorded version?

Having your song performed live is always a nice touch but bear in mind the kind of band you’re having. Asking a Swing band to play a Nirvana song or getting your floppy-fringed Indie band to play ‘Fly Me To The Moon’ is likely to end in disappointment. Having the original version played by the DJ is a safe bet if your band are unable or unlikely to do your chosen song justice.

How long is the song?

You don’t really want to be up there for any longer than is absolutely necessary. A rule of thumb to consider is the length of time it’ll take for your photographer to get those all-important snaps of you both looking fabulous. Commercial radio stations generally refuse to play any song that’s longer than 3 minutes. Why? Because research shows that Joe Public lacks the attention span to focus on one thing for too long and will go looking for another station if the song playing is any longer. If your chosen song is an epic, sprawling ballad that runs on and on….and on, then you may find that even your videographer has gone to the bar by the time it’s over. If your heart’s set on a particularly long song then ask your band or DJ to cut it down and give you what’s known as ‘the highlights package’.

Can you dance to it?

It sounds a bit daft but there’s some songs that even Michael Jackson would struggle to move to….and I mean when he was alive of course. Some songs are either very, very slow or have an unusual time signature that makes dancing with any kind of coordination difficult. Try it out at home, and if you look like a robot when you’re not even trying to do ‘the robot’, then maybe it’s time to pick another song unless you look as good as this:

Are you fully prepared?

A dance is a dance, but things change when it’s one as monumental as the first dance in front of your family and friends. Practising to the music beforehand will give you an opportunity to refine your technique, build up a tolerance to having your toes stood on and think about how you will move to certain parts of the song. If you are learning a specific routine to perform, the more you can practice, the better.

Ask yourself in the lead-up to the big day if everyone who needs to know what you want to happen in the build-up to and during your first dance does – Band/DJ, photographer, videographer, Best Man, Maid of Honour, other half, and God forbid don’t overlook informing the parents. They hate being left out! If you wait to mention specifics until your wedding day, you may not have the time or you could forget with all the excitement. Once the first few bars of the song come in and the cameras start flashing there’s no going back!

And Finally!…

…Don’t forget to smile and enjoy the moment.

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Your wedding day is bound to be a whirlwind so remember, your first dance may be the only time during the whole day that you and your partner get a chance to enjoy a few minutes together without distraction!

So many people (nearly always the Groom) are concentrating so hard on trying to remember the choreography, or just trying to look like they know what they’re doing, that they completely forget about smiling. The least you can do while you’re up there is pretend that you’re enjoying yourself. Happiest day of your life, remember! Let’s not forget that there’s at least 100 cameras pointing at you at this point and the picture of you with a look on your face like you’re still digesting the main course is not going to look great above the fireplace. Take a deep breath and enjoy the moment. No matter what anyone else thinks, you will have the best first dance because it’s yours to remember.

On that note, I’ll leave you with a few quotes I received from Musician friends and others of their most memorable first dance experiences.

“We played the wrong song for one couple. Right band, wrong song. It should have been ‘Chasing Cars’ but instead we did ‘All That I Have’. Their faces were a picture!”

“Recently we had a Bride and Groom have their first dance with a Staffordshire Bull Terrier.”

“If it’s doing it via a CD then turn your anti-virus software off so in the middle of the song your laptop doesn’t scream “A virus has been detected!” Yes, this happened to us recently.”

“For my wedding song I had the artist sing ‘I Never Really Loved You Anyway’ by The Coors. I really liked the song and didn’t think of the significance at the time. Thinking about it, I feel quite bad now.”


Thanks Nathan! its great having you on the blog. We hope all our lovely readers enjoyed reading it as much as we did! 

For those wondering what the most popular wedding songs are this year, Spotify analzyized over 30,000 wedding playlists and came up with this top 10:


We’d love to know what your first dance song is/was, Do let us know in the comments box!