Bride to be Diaries: Empowered Bride part 6

Those of you who have been on a wedding weight loss plan may have been following our Empowered Bride’s story. Here she is with the next installment.


I have been losing weight for a few months now and feeling so much better within my skin. I have a whole new set of clothes that I have found at the back of my wardrobe. They used to be called my skinny clothes. So technically does this make me skinny?

Certain things have been so much easier since starting this journey. Little everyday things that you don’t normally notice. Such as running to the car when it is hammering down with rain, carrying the shopping bags in from the car in one go (a small challenge I set myself) and dragging the vacuum around the house.

The problem is nobody talks to you about the things that aren’t easier while losing weight. One particular problem arose while doing a food shop.

Normally I go shopping on my own. The reason behind it is that I can decide what goes in. If it doesn’t make it into trolley it won’t become a temptation when I get home. I also do all the cooking in the house so it’s easier for me to do all of the menu planning.

One particular day my other half decided to “help” me do a food shop. It was a debate all the way round as to what was allowed to come home with us and what was going to set  me off track. I do feel for him as he has been having an enforced cut down since I have on my diet, so I let a few things slip through.

As we were unloading I noticed we had forgotten the bin liners and I gave him a little nudge to quickly go and grab some. I never knew my other half was secretly on an episode of supermarket sweep! Within minutes he was back proudly balancing the bin liners on top of the each and every item I had said no to. He promptly dumped them in front of the cashier who rang them all through.

So the rest of the week I spent strengthening my willpower and avoiding all the treats in the cupboard! Remember that dress!

Bride to Be Diaries: The Empowered Bride, Part 5

Our anonymous contributor The Empowered Bride is back with the next instalment in her series on how she is losing weight in advance of her big day. Why is she called The Empowered Bride? “To empower” is defined as “[To] make (someone) stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights” which is exactly what she is doing! scales

I have a problem!

The problem is that since my body has changed I have nothing to wear. Since baggy and saggy chic hasn’t quite become a craze yet I’m a bit lost as to what to wear. Everyone thinks that losing weight is fantastic but there is a side to it that is rubbish. I currently have this eclectic fashion sense of nothing quite matching. So I’m embracing this look and trying to convince myself that stripes and checks are a fashion statement and clashing patterns are all the rage right now! My jeans hang and I have some tops that are too big and hang close to me exposing myself but hey, everyone is telling me how good I look! I must be rocking this dashing homeless trend.

Now this would be the perfect time for me to buy some new clothes. This is where another problem arises. We have a wedding to pay for so do I get some clothes to tide me over or pay for a DJ? I do however have two wardrobes. A big one and a slim one. I’m not a hoarder but there are just some clothes that are far too good to throw out just because they no longer fit. You still love them and they looked lovely on you until they got a little too cosy.

Now I would love to start wearing the beautiful pieces that I have been coveting for the last couple of years so I decided to try some of them on again and surprisingly one or two of them fit but others! I have muffin tops and impromptu body con outfits that no amount of spanks will help. I finally bit the bullet and bought a couple of new clothes items this weekend. I did a little fashion show for my other half. After walking in to the lounge in my new jeans he just said “Finally, clothes that actually fit you!”

Argh, the in-between sizes dilemma! I have been through phases where nothing in my wardrobe fits me, in fact when I was saving for a wedding I went through a very similar thing! The great news is that obviously the diet is working. Does anyone have any similar stories to share? A problem shared and all that…

Bride to Be Diaries: The Empowered Bride, Part 4

Our Empowered Bride is back with the fourth part of her Bride to Be Diary. Click for parts one, two and three. “To empower” is defined as “[To] make (someone) stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights” which is exactly why our our bride to be is called the Empowered Bride.

“When she is good, she is very, very good but when she is bad she is horrid!”

We all know the saying and I have to admit. I have had a month of being horrid. A couple of days away turns into, “I will start again Monday.” Which turns into “no point starting til we come back from holiday” and so on and so on.

So I needed to get my head back in the game. And I asked myself how do I start sorting my head out. Well I needed to do something I haven’t done for a long time! Something I hadn’t ever wanted to do. Something that for me was more torturous than seeing those shoes you have been eyeing up go on sale when you are skint! Something I hated! I decided to take a leaf out of Forrest Gump’s book and Ran!

According to the dictionary, running is a means of terrestrial locomotion allowing humans and other animals to move rapidly on foot. It is simply defined in athletics terms as a gait in which at regular points during the running cycle both feet are off the ground. I don’t normally move rapidly or try to lift both feet of the floor except in the recliner chair. But since losing some weight and needing something that scared me I thought why not.

We all know that everything diet or exercise related starts on a Monday. So true to form, early on a Monday morning, I put on some trainers and I braved the road . After 3/4 minutes the little voice in my head consciously said out load “Oh my God I’m actually running!” It might not be anything big for you but for me it was gigantic.

Now I’m not going to say I love it. And I’m not going to say I’m addicted to it. In actual fact, I hate it. It’s hard work and I can’t run for very long. You might say I do a lot of walking on my runs and I look like a sweaty tomato as I go round the roads. With all that aside the one fact that I am proud of is that I am trying!

I remember feeling exactly the same when I started running before the wedding! Do we have any more empowered brides who want to share their stories with us? Please leave a comment in the box below.

Bride to be Diaries: The Empowered Bride, Part Three

Our Empowered Bride is back today with Part Three of her bride to be diary. If you’ve not been following her posts, you can read her first post here and her second here. For those that wonder why she’s called the ‘Empowered’ Bride. The definition of Empower is: To make (someone) stronger and more confident. And thats exactly what this bride is doing. She’s on a mission to get fitter, healthier and to feel the best she can! not just for her wedding day but beyond. Enjoy x

This week I hit my first milestone. I lost a stone! I’m super chuffed with myself. I know that diet alone won’t get me there so I decided to start some exercise. I don’t know if any of you have done this but I kinda felt I wanted to lose a bit of weight before I went. It’s crazy but being a bit slimmer gave me the confidence to walk through the door. Please note I do not even know a single person at my gym so they had no clue I had even lost a pound!

I planned to go to a Zumba class and thought I could blend into the background. I need a class that gives me a round of applause at the end. That was where I made my first mistake. I had been planning to go since Christmas and had looked at an out of date timetable. So when I arrived there had been a change to the timetable and the class they had put on instead was kettle bells.

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After all that effort to find my gym clothes, get in the car, drive all the way there, get out the car, walk though the doors. I was left with a bit of an issue. Do I leave and say I will start next Monday or do I endure kettle bells?

Kettle bells and will power won! Yay me. A little bit chuffed and naive I walked into the studio. Rob seemed nice until the music started. “For those who know me well done for coming back for those who are first timers, I like everyone to feel the same pain! Good Luck” everyone turned and looked at me with That look!

The next hour consisted of pain, shouting, pain, coordination, pain, sweating and more pain! I know after I felt a bit faint during the warm up that I was in trouble! When the music finally stopped and Rob could see me finally start to breath normally he pipes up ” It never gets easier! You get fitter, push yourself more and it should still hurt!” Oh golly at least that class is over!

Or so I thought. The next morning I was in a world of pain! I could barely walk. My other half was there rolling around in fits of laughter as I hobbled to the loo. Well, who ever knew that sitting down on the toilet was such torture. Ow ow ow ow ow all the way down and ow ow ow ow ow all the way up. I spent the rest of the day with a self inflicted nil by mouth, not drinking anything as I didn’t want to experience that again.

Introducing: The Diary of The Empowered Bride

We have a new member of the team joining us today. Introducing The Diary of The Empowered Bride. This beautiful bride-to-be has chosen to remain anonymous to our readers in the lead up to her wedding. Why? Well, she is on a mission. A weight-loss mission.  She wants to share her journey with you without revealing her identity.  The ups & downs but all in good humour.

We really hope you enjoy this series and that you will use the comments box to share your thoughts and experiences as well as show your support too.  Without further a do, here she is…

The Empowered Bride

Today I’m going to climb mountain.

Before you set out to climb a mountain, there are a few things you need to consider. Firstly, will you need to take equipment with you? Who are is going to join you on the adventure? Will they be able to lift you up if you fall? How long is this going to take?

I am enduring to climb the highest peak that I have climbed in what seems to be forever. I know it has struck fear into many a bride and I can honestly tell you I am feeling exactly the same. Today I am going to climb Mount Everest! Okay it’s not a mountain it’s actually my bathroom scales!scales

So, it’s just scales I hear you say? Well you haven’t met mine. Never in my life have I met anything more judgmental, inconsistent and superficial. I can feel it watching as I brush my teeth waiting for the moment when I muster up the courage to step on. That’s when the routine starts. Earrings out, bracelet off, clothes off, socks, rings off. No make up on or body lotion that might weigh too much. Gosh don’t forget to take the hair bobble out. Every little counts. I can literally hear it groan as I stand there waiting for it to decide if it’s going to be kind and I’m pretty sure I hear it let a sigh of relief out as I step off!

This time I have a massive incentive. I’m getting married and I won’t let some glass and crome bathroom ornament get the better of me. This time it’s different I won’t be doing this alone. This time I will be sharing my challenge with you.

“When God said ‘Who wants a big chin?’ I thought he said gin so I asked for a double!” Only another bride will understand that I don’t want “a double” in my wedding photos.

So this is where you come in. Being on a diet can get pretty lonely and I’m asking for my fellow brides to support each other and myself as I start writing as the Empowered Bride!