This week we booked a cottage in St David’s to celebrate our first wedding anniversary when it hit me – that is only 6 weeks away! I don’t quite know where that time has gone.
This time last year I was suffering from laryngitis and hoping my voice would come back in time to say my vows, it eventually came back during my amazing hen weekend (read about it here, and see our wedding here) where I discovered that laughter really is the best medicine, well, laughter and prosecco. Now I’m sitting here in our new house reflecting over the past year.
When you get married there are three words you will hear A LOT and I don’t mean “I love you”, I’m talking about the question you will inevitably hear often: “how’s married life?” In reality on a day to day basis our married life isn’t much different to our pre-married life. We still live together, we went from saving for a wedding to saving for a house and now we are saving to do up that house, we still go to work every day and we still spend far too much time on facebook groups (ok maybe that’s just me). But there is something about being married that does feel different and it’s hard to put my finger on exactly what it is; it’s a sense of security and contentment that comes from being an official unit, we are family now, we have the same last name (although that bit did take a lot of getting used to!) and it’s a nice feeling.
If you google (other search engines are available) the first year of marriage you will see pages of articles on how hard the first year of marriage is, I won’t deny that over the last 11 months there have been times that I’ve wanted to kill him but then he does something like putting on our wedding video or pulling out colour charts for me to pour over and all is forgiven.
We have had a busy year, following our amazing honeymoon in Sorrento we started house hunting and we finally bought our first house together in June this year. It’s a real DIY project and we have a busy few years ahead of us making it beautiful, Mark has been slogging away to give me a gorgeous fireplace and magnificent restored parquet floor and I am so proud of him. I have been doing a photography course through Ffotogallery in Cardiff and am absolutely loving it, I’ve made some great new friends and find it very therapeutic.
I am lucky to have a great circle of family and friends, many of whom came to my incredible surprise birthday party that Mark arranged on Easter Sunday, I am still a bit in shock about that- biggest surprise ever! I also count myself lucky that I met three amazing ladies Sarah, Karen and Philippa who also got married last year and because we are all going through very similar things they have been an amazing support system. Thank you wives.
Most of you are still planning your weddings and I am mildly envious of that but am really enjoying my old married status. I’m not sure if this post is intended to give advice or if it’s more of a ramble but if I was going to give advice I would say: get yourself a support system, don’t take your new husband for granted, enjoy each other’s company and arrange treats or weekends away together when you can, get yourself a post wedding project to stave off the post wedding blues but keep reading Cwtch the Bride for that little wedding fix :)
If like me you are at or past the one year point and have any advice, comments or just general wisdom please get in touch through the comments below, and any brides to be if you have any questions then likewise please use the comments box and all of us here at Cwtch will do our best to help.
Lots of love