I’m hijacking my own blog this afternoon for personal reasons.
Eight years ago today, I wrapped my hair in rollers, filled my tummy with butterflies and stepped into a wedding dress. With the help of my brother, I faced that nervous walk down the aisle to marry the man I fell in love with, Nad.
Its my eighth wedding anniversary today folks, hurray!
Image by Neil Weekes
As you read this, I am (hopefully) taking it easy, enjoying a well deserved break and thinking back to my own wedding day with fond memories.
As I enter my eighth year of marriage, what have I learnt?
Our seventh year was by far our hardest yet. We’ve had to work very hard at our relationship. We are very different people. I’m loud, he’s quiet. I make a lot of mess, he hates mess. We argue…we make up. But we have a very strong connection and that is what helps us get through the bad times.
(Every year Nad makes me a hand-made card)
Marriage to me is about LOVE. As well as give and take, compromising, listening and being best friends.
Like many others, there are days we wake up and can’t stand each other and yet there are days we’re cwtched up so nicely we wish we could lay there all day.
In my mind, A good marriage takes effort, on both parts.
I’m curious to know, for those that are married, what year (so far) have you found the most difficult? Did anyone else experience the seven year itch? Maybe a three year tickle? or a twenty year rumble?
Do leave a comment below, I’d love to hear what you all think.
A little while back we asked via our Facebook page for readers to get in touch telling us how they met their other halves. We had an amazing response and have some lovely stories to share with you all. Back in June we told you how Hannah met Dan and we are back this week with another amazing story.
In the second part of our series on falling in love we hear from reader Beth who met her husband to be through a wrong phone number – if you believe in fate I think you’ll agree this was it!
I hope you enjoy reading about it, if you have a story about how you jumped in with both feet and fell in love we would really like to hear it.
How Beth met Nathan
On January 5th 2010 I received a text from a random number out of the blue and I replied politely saying “Sorry you have the wrong number”, a message came back saying “Who’s this then?” and this was the start of a month of phone calls and text messages. We couldn’t believe it when we found out that we lived 15 minutes from each other!! It was my birthday on the 13th of February (the day before Valentine’s day) and I received a massive bunch of flowers and two cards from Nathan.
We decided to meet each other for the first time on the 15th of February as I wanted to thank him in person for the flowers. We arranged to meet outside Costa Coffee at the MacArthur Glen retail outlet in Bridgend, when I first saw him it hit me like a brick wall: I knew there and then that I was going to marry him! He’s told me the same since!
We got engaged on Christmas Eve 2011 in front of Winnie the Pooh at Disneyland Paris, it was the most amazing moment of my life! I had absolutely no idea he was going to do it! When we first got to Disneyland I wanted to go straight to see Winnie the Pooh but Nathan wouldn’t let me :( little did I know what he had planned! We waited in line for 20 minutes for Pooh bear on Christmas Eve, Nathan handed my camera to another person waiting in line and I had my photo taken with Pooh bear on my own then Nathan took off his coat and walked towards me, it was absolutely freezing!!! He grabbed my hands and I could feel he was shaking like a leaf, he told me that he wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and that I completed his life. The ring was absolutely gorgeous and he had designed it himself! Luckily the person with my camera had kept on snapping without me realising and I was amazed that I got this photograph of the moment.
We moved into a new house in March 2012 and have been saving for our wedding ever since.
The moment captured on my camera and the ring designed by Nathan
Thank you Beth for getting in touch with your beautiful story, good luck with all of your wedding plans!
If you are a follower of our Facebook page, you’ll know we ask lots of questions. We love getting to know you all.
Recently I asked, how did you meet you’re other half? Very quickly I started getting snippets of some fabulous Welsh love stories! After emailing some of our readers and hearing how wonderful these stories are, they’ve agreed to let me share them with you all.
I personally love reading about those that took risks, trusted that gut instinct and followed their heart. Life is way too short to spend it waiting for mr or mrs right to come knocking on your door.
Here is the first in a series of posts as told by our readers. I hope you’ll enjoy reading them. Maria x
How Hannah Met Dan (as told by Hannah)
So I popped into the bank in Abergavenny as I did on a weekly basis. And there was a new boy behind the counter. I fleetingly noticed he was quite cute, dark cheeky smile, but that was it. I went to the counter and he said “what kind of name is that – you’re not from around here” and I thought he was so cheeky! So having heard his strong Tredegar accent I told him the same!
My colleague was waiting for me outside and I said “that boy in there was so cheeky” and told her the story. “Hannah, that’s flirting.” Hahahaha I had no idea! Having gone through a break up I was “off men” for a while. Or so I thought! That was that and it wasn’t until a week later, I popped into the bank and the cheeky smile was there again. He waved over for me to go to his counter. Then the butterflies started and I found myself looking forward to my weekly bank visits ;-)
I was at home one evening and had a message on Facebook. It was addressed to girl with the funny name and from bank boy. We’d had one mutual friend in common and apparently I popped up on his newsfeed. We went for a few dates in our lunch breaks over the next week or two then I had a phone call Xmas 2009 – did I want to spend new year in Paris?
My mam was a bit wary because we’d only just met but I followed my gut feeling and thought “why not” travelling on trains and staying in hostels is a good way to get to know someone.We both talked about backpacking but never had the chance to do it so I spent two amazing weeks on an adventure backpacking around Europe. We fell in love. It was the time of my life.
We’ve kept travelling the globe and road tripped all around the west coast, New York Vegas.
He told me in our road trip that everyone thought he’d propose to me but he wanted me to remember it as my 30th trip not the holiday we got engaged.
It was on a weekend in London two weeks after our road trip that Dan proposed. He booked us in a suite at the park plaza – I assumed that we’d just had an upgrade.
My best friend Rebecca lives in London so whenever we’re there I always meet up with her. I didn’t realise that this spoiled his plans to take me to Primrose Hill and propose as the sun set!
We ended up in a secret cocktail place in London where we had to walk through a smeg fridge! Had brunch, cocktails and then dan kept nervously checking his watch and panicking about time.
We got back to the hotel. I had my orders to shower. (So he could order some wine ready to pop the question) and I came out of the shower (with a very fetching shower cap on) and watch Murray win on the TV. Someone knocked the door and as I skipped over Dan says “you’re in your dressing gown I’ll get it” panicking that I’d spoil the surprise (again) and I turned around, he was on one knee holding a box.
I had no clue! I just burst into tears and jumped around the room (forgetting to say yes)
It was amazing. He asked my mam’s permission the week before. I may have been naked with just a dressing gown and shower cap on and not on primrose hill but it was us. Every crazy minute. After a few phone calls and crying we had the most amazing night listening to Buble at the O2 :-) and of course there’ll be plenty of buble at our wedding next summer.
Thanks for sharing Hannah! We think Bank Boy rocks!
I’m sure there are lots more welsh modern love stories amongst us all! come on…lets start sharing them, this series of posts may give someone the courage to follow their heart! How did you and your other half meet? We’d love to know. Email your story to us at firstname.lastname@example.org and if chosen, you too will feature on our blog :) If you’d prefer to remain anonymous, thats fine with us too xxx