Living with The Wedding Blues

We have something a little different for you today. One of our readers, who wishes to remain anonymous, has contacted us because (like many other newlyweds) she is living with the post wedding blues. She decided to write a post about it, which I hope she found as cathartic as I found writing my wedding day regrets post. I’m sure many of you will relate so once you have read please leave a comment to let us know how you feel and how you are getting over the wedding blues yourselves. 

Living with the ‘wedding blues’

As all you previous brides will already know and all of you brides to be are about to find out, your wedding day really is the best day of your life. I know everyone always tells you this, but I think you get so sucked up into the whole planning process that it’s only the day after the wedding that you really appreciate it how true it is. My sister told me before my wedding that if you could bottle the feeling you have on the day, you could sell it for millions. I’d say more like billions. However, what people don’t tell you, is how you’ll probably feel afterwards….

I don’t know about all of you other brides, but personally I loved the planning process. Maybe some of you rejoiced after the wedding and were thankful that life could return to normal but I was the exact opposite. I have to say that it is the most bizarre feeling knowing that it’s all over and I am now officially living with wedding blues. Ok, so I can imagine all of you brides to be thinking how ridiculous this all sounds and telling me to get a grip. Well, here are a few reasons why I think the wedding blues are very real:

1.      Number one has to be the most obvious. It is the massive void you now have in your life from not having anything to plan. I loved researching suppliers, reading blogs and magazines to get inspiration and going to planning meetings. Virtually all of my spare time (and I must admit, probably a third of my work time!) was spent wedding planning. It literally took over my life and I loved every second of it.

2.      Your wedding is probably the only day that you will have all of your favourite people, family and friends, in one place. You look around the room and see everyone you love.

3.      You will probably never feel as beautiful as you do on the day of your wedding and that is actually quite a depressing feeling. When will you ever get the opportunity to wear a beautiful princess dress, justify spending a fortune on shoes, get your hair and makeup done by professionals and have a photographer following you around all day. On that day it is all about you and you feel like a celebrity. Everyone comes up to you telling you how amazing you look. The day after your wedding, no one tells you how amazing you look.

4.      You become infatuated with looking at the photos! The day goes by so quickly that you feel like you didn’t have a chance to take everything in. All those weeks planning and imagining what everything would look like and you didn’t even notice the tiny details which a few days before you were obsessed with!

5.      You’re both now skint after spending all of your money on your dream wedding that you now can’t even afford some retail therapy to try and make yourself feel better, let alone plan a trip to take your mind off how depressed you are.

6.      You watch what you eat and train the hardest in the gym that you ever have before to make sure you look the best can you on your wedding day. Then you go on honeymoon and remember what it’s like to be able to eat and drink what you want and take it to the extreme. You look in the mirror when you get home and have to accept that you’ll never have the same ‘gymspiration’ as you did before the wedding.

7.      Although your wedding is still at the forefront of YOUR mind and you’re trying to keep its memory alive, people stop asking you about it and it feels like it’s now a distant memory.

So you have the best day of your life, jet off on your honeymoon and have the most wonderful time, come back to your beautiful professional photos and videos to relive the day and then what? Back to the rain, back to work, back to reality… and reality sucks!

That is the wedding blues.

Homemade Bride Kate’s Perfectly Imperfect Honeymoon

Our newlywed Homemade Bride Kate is just back from her incredible sounding honeymoon, proving that (just like your wedding day) even if it isn’t perfect it will still be, well… perfect!

We got married 5 days before Christmas. Since we had family who had flown over for a wedding and Christmas we decided to delay leaving for our honeymoon till Boxing Day. I don’t regret that decision at all but everyone wanted to spend time with us and we spent the next 5 days driving around the country visiting family and at that point, we were absolutely ready to go.

I always thought that a honeymoon was just an awesome holiday. What I didn’t realise was how exhausted we would be after months of planning and all the run up to the actual day that I suddenly understood why newlyweds go on honeymoon. It was to have time to recuperate and have a stress free start to marriage. image2
Ever since I was 15 when I worked in a Thai restaurant I have wanted to go to Thailand. Every time I nearly booked a holiday there something happened and the plans always changed. It has been built up so much in my mind that there really wasn’t a discussion about the honeymoon. Even though Sean had been there before we just knew it was going to be Thailand. image4b
When you think about your honeymoon you imagine that everything is going to go perfectly. I mean you watch movies and adverts and the expectations are right up there. You see all these couples getting upgraded and having all these freebies. You think this will be amaaaaazing!
I’m not a person who is all about the stuff. I never expected to get upgraded to first class just because it was my honeymoon. I never expected to get champagne for free nor did I assume people would treat my any differently. What you need to realise is, I am unbelievable clumsy and I have this uncanny way to have not bad luck per say but unfortunate luck, follow me around. All I hoped for was that we would have a hiccup free fortnight. That didn’t happen.
The first night Sean had booked us to have dinner at one of the most amazing restaurants in the world. It was on top of the tallest building in Bangkok. I’m not great with heights. Let’s be honest here, I don’t even like standing on a chair but it was his treat and I loved him for thinking about it. Picture the scene, a stunning view and this balmy air where I have an out of body experience of “Bloody hell I’m in Thailand!” And I start crying. Sean is pretty chuffed with himself. This was until the wind started to pick up. Three mouthfuls into our delicious dinner, a huge gust of wind whipped my hair up and I started to panic. Before we could ask to move the worst torrential rain I have ever seen suddenly started pouring down on us. All you could see were staff and patrons making a mad dash to get inside before getting totally soaked through. Even the waitress was surprised and shocked and told us that she had never seen it happen like that as we towel dried ourselves. image3
Both of us got ill in the first few days of being there. Sean lost his voice and had flu but I got a severe water infection. Now imagine this: you have to go to a pharmacy in Bangkok and describe what a water infection to a person who doesn’t understand English! After about 15 minutes of Sean and I laughing our heads off in frustration and amusement she finally brought up Google translate on the computer. This woman is a genius! One minute later we were out the door antibiotics in hand.
We did do some amazing things that you could only ever do on honeymoon. I experienced snorkelling for the first time. To see the fish that you see in the aquariums was so exciting. It was like I was watching Finding Nemo in real life. I had three full body massages in a week the only cost £8 each. Talk about relaxing. We did a full day at sea and I discovered that with anti-sickness tablets I can fall in love with the ocean. During that trip I caught a fish using a proper fishing rod for the first time. I rode an elephant! We did a cooking lesson and every time we cook Thai now it takes us back to the special time we had together. image2image1image4

I didn't say it was a big fish!

I didn’t say it was a big fish!

Our honeymoon was not perfect but the thing is- it was perfect for us. We are not all about the things you can buy, we are one of those couples that love making memories. What we discovered on honeymoon is that whatever the world throws at us, whether it is good, bad or the downright crazy Asian stuff, is that experiencing it together we can face anything. It wouldn’t have been our honeymoon if it had run smoothly. I would never change it for the world as even though it had wobbles it was amaaaazing! image6
It looks like Kate had an incredible time,despite the little hiccups. Tell us about your honeymoon, was there anything that didn’t go to plan? Or if you haven’t been yet tell us where you are going and why :)

THE LUSH LIST

Shhh…..Today I wanted to let you in on a secret. Its something very special we’re planning to launch later this month. Its called, The LUSH LIST.LUSH LIST MAP

Since our lovely Welsh Wedding blog started back in 2013, we regularly receive lots of emails from engaged couples asking us to recommend venues & suppliers throughout Wales.

This got us thinking… Why don’t we create a super cool directory for you all?  A new section to the blog that features all the cool suppliers we love PLUS the ones that you (past Brides & Grooms) also recommend!

Good idea hey?! (We think so too)

We want to help make finding suppliers easy for you. We want to save you hours of scouring the internet. Our LUSH LIST will point you in the direction of some of Wales’ finest wedding professionals. Companies that we have all used for our own weddings, suppliers we have worked with professionally at weddings, experts we’ve already featured on our blog as well as new and upcoming businesses that we feel offer something truly unique.

 So… as we continue beavering away behind the blog, putting together this kick ass directory. We want to let you know how you can get involved to help make this really special!

How To Get Involved

It is important to us that our LUSH LIST only contains top quality, professional suppliers in Wales. Each and every venue and supplier featured in this directory will have been invited to join by us or recommended by you.

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For Brides

We really want to know who your favourite wedding suppliers are and why. Simply fill out the form below and we’ll take a look.

[contact-form to=’info@cwtchthebride.com’ subject=’LUSH LIST RECOMMENDATION’][contact-field label=’Name’ type=’name’ required=’1’/][contact-field label=’Email’ type=’email’ required=’1’/][contact-field label=’Wedding Date’ type=’text’/][contact-field label=’My 3 favourite wedding suppliers are’ type=’textarea’/][contact-field label=’What do you love most about them?’ type=’textarea’ required=’1’/][/contact-form]

For Businesses

If you run a cool wedding business in Wales and you’d like us to consider you for our Lush List, then get in touch here. If invited to join, you will receive lots of benefits to help your business including features, events, collaborating on styled shoots as well as being given our Approved vendor badge to use

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We’re looking forward to hearing from you all xxx

A Bride’s Gift

On Friday we featured Katie’s beautiful wedding which was photographed beautifully by our sponsor Christopher Ian. Katie and her friends Jo and Bex originally contacted Cwtch the Bride to tell us about the amazing idea they came up with while planning their weddings. Here Katie explains about A Bride’s Gift. All images in this post are from the Facebook page.997065_742632165816143_1640861969862275353_n

Like many brides, I grew my hair for my wedding… or rather enjoyed not having to bother getting a hair cut for a year before it ;)  As the wedding drew near, I was starting to fantasise about how nice it would be to have less of it to deal with and how much I’d save in shampoo.  At the time I was also doing 30 random acts of kindness in the 30 days before the wedding… mostly to have something to distract me from wedding planning nerves!  I found out about the Little Princess Trust, who make real hair wigs for children who have lost their hair through illness or cancer treatment.  You only have to have 7 inches plus to donate and I knew I would have lots more than this by the wedding.  I then thought, lots of other women grow their hair for their big day and might be interested in joining me.  I asked on Facebook and two friends who had both recently got married, Jo Fothergill and Bex McAllan, got in touch and said they’d like to do it too with others hoping to do it in the next year or so after their weddings when their hair had reached the right length.  We set up a Facebook page to share our progress and a Just Giving page to raise some money as each wig costs upwards of £350 to make. We reached this initial fundraising target of £1000 last month!

I was hoping to share this story so that other brides might get inspired to join us and consider donating their hair after their big day. There’s a very home-made video on the Facebook page showing our big cuts that happened last week (my editing skills are a bit shaky).
A Bride’s Gift is not itself a charity, just an informal group of brides supporting the charity the Little Princess Trust. Here is a message from the trust:
“Thank you all so very much for this wonderful support. With the funds raised, the charity can buy a further three wigs for poorly children and your hair donations will form part of another wig for a different child who needs help.
Please pass on our grateful thanks to your supporters too.
Kind regards
Monica Glass
Charity Manager”

Wow I hope you’ll agree that these three brides (two Welsh and one English!) are pretty special. I wish I had thought about this before having my hair cut after the wedding, it is such an amazing cause. If you are on the fence about going for the chop after the wedding perhaps this will be a little added incentive!

Have any of you thought about doing something like this, or have you already done it?! Please share your story with us (and any charity links and pictures) in the comments box.