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We have something a little different for you today. One of our readers, who wishes to remain anonymous, has contacted us because (like many other newlyweds) she is living with the post wedding blues. She decided to write a post about it, which I hope she found as cathartic as I found writing my wedding day regrets post. I’m sure many of you will relate so once you have read please leave a comment to let us know how you feel and how you are getting over the wedding blues yourselves.
Living with the ‘wedding blues’
As all you previous brides will already know and all of you brides to be are about to find out, your wedding day really is the best day of your life. I know everyone always tells you this, but I think you get so sucked up into the whole planning process that it’s only the day after the wedding that you really appreciate it how true it is. My sister told me before my wedding that if you could bottle the feeling you have on the day, you could sell it for millions. I’d say more like billions. However, what people don’t tell you, is how you’ll probably feel afterwards….
I don’t know about all of you other brides, but personally I loved the planning process. Maybe some of you rejoiced after the wedding and were thankful that life could return to normal but I was the exact opposite. I have to say that it is the most bizarre feeling knowing that it’s all over and I am now officially living with wedding blues. Ok, so I can imagine all of you brides to be thinking how ridiculous this all sounds and telling me to get a grip. Well, here are a few reasons why I think the wedding blues are very real:
1. Number one has to be the most obvious. It is the massive void you now have in your life from not having anything to plan. I loved researching suppliers, reading blogs and magazines to get inspiration and going to planning meetings. Virtually all of my spare time (and I must admit, probably a third of my work time!) was spent wedding planning. It literally took over my life and I loved every second of it.
2. Your wedding is probably the only day that you will have all of your favourite people, family and friends, in one place. You look around the room and see everyone you love.
3. You will probably never feel as beautiful as you do on the day of your wedding and that is actually quite a depressing feeling. When will you ever get the opportunity to wear a beautiful princess dress, justify spending a fortune on shoes, get your hair and makeup done by professionals and have a photographer following you around all day. On that day it is all about you and you feel like a celebrity. Everyone comes up to you telling you how amazing you look. The day after your wedding, no one tells you how amazing you look.
4. You become infatuated with looking at the photos! The day goes by so quickly that you feel like you didn’t have a chance to take everything in. All those weeks planning and imagining what everything would look like and you didn’t even notice the tiny details which a few days before you were obsessed with!
5. You’re both now skint after spending all of your money on your dream wedding that you now can’t even afford some retail therapy to try and make yourself feel better, let alone plan a trip to take your mind off how depressed you are.
6. You watch what you eat and train the hardest in the gym that you ever have before to make sure you look the best can you on your wedding day. Then you go on honeymoon and remember what it’s like to be able to eat and drink what you want and take it to the extreme. You look in the mirror when you get home and have to accept that you’ll never have the same ‘gymspiration’ as you did before the wedding.
7. Although your wedding is still at the forefront of YOUR mind and you’re trying to keep its memory alive, people stop asking you about it and it feels like it’s now a distant memory.
So you have the best day of your life, jet off on your honeymoon and have the most wonderful time, come back to your beautiful professional photos and videos to relive the day and then what? Back to the rain, back to work, back to reality… and reality sucks!
That is the wedding blues.
Our newlywed Homemade Bride Kate is just back from her incredible sounding honeymoon, proving that (just like your wedding day) even if it isn’t perfect it will still be, well… perfect!
We got married 5 days before Christmas. Since we had family who had flown over for a wedding and Christmas we decided to delay leaving for our honeymoon till Boxing Day. I don’t regret that decision at all but everyone wanted to spend time with us and we spent the next 5 days driving around the country visiting family and at that point, we were absolutely ready to go.
Shhh…..Today I wanted to let you in on a secret. Its something very special we’re planning to launch later this month. Its called, The LUSH LIST.
Since our lovely Welsh Wedding blog started back in 2013, we regularly receive lots of emails from engaged couples asking us to recommend venues & suppliers throughout Wales.
This got us thinking… Why don’t we create a super cool directory for you all? A new section to the blog that features all the cool suppliers we love PLUS the ones that you (past Brides & Grooms) also recommend!
Good idea hey?! (We think so too)
We want to help make finding suppliers easy for you. We want to save you hours of scouring the internet. Our LUSH LIST will point you in the direction of some of Wales’ finest wedding professionals. Companies that we have all used for our own weddings, suppliers we have worked with professionally at weddings, experts we’ve already featured on our blog as well as new and upcoming businesses that we feel offer something truly unique.
So… as we continue beavering away behind the blog, putting together this kick ass directory. We want to let you know how you can get involved to help make this really special!
How To Get Involved
It is important to us that our LUSH LIST only contains top quality, professional suppliers in Wales. Each and every venue and supplier featured in this directory will have been invited to join by us or recommended by you.
We really want to know who your favourite wedding suppliers are and why. Simply fill out the form below and we’ll take a look.
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If you run a cool wedding business in Wales and you’d like us to consider you for our Lush List, then get in touch here. If invited to join, you will receive lots of benefits to help your business including features, events, collaborating on styled shoots as well as being given our Approved vendor badge to use
We’re looking forward to hearing from you all xxx
On Friday we featured Katie’s beautiful wedding which was photographed beautifully by our sponsor Christopher Ian. Katie and her friends Jo and Bex originally contacted Cwtch the Bride to tell us about the amazing idea they came up with while planning their weddings. Here Katie explains about A Bride’s Gift. All images in this post are from the Facebook page.
Like many brides, I grew my hair for my wedding… or rather enjoyed not having to bother getting a hair cut for a year before it ;) As the wedding drew near, I was starting to fantasise about how nice it would be to have less of it to deal with and how much I’d save in shampoo. At the time I was also doing 30 random acts of kindness in the 30 days before the wedding… mostly to have something to distract me from wedding planning nerves! I found out about the Little Princess Trust, who make real hair wigs for children who have lost their hair through illness or cancer treatment. You only have to have 7 inches plus to donate and I knew I would have lots more than this by the wedding. I then thought, lots of other women grow their hair for their big day and might be interested in joining me. I asked on Facebook and two friends who had both recently got married, Jo Fothergill and Bex McAllan, got in touch and said they’d like to do it too with others hoping to do it in the next year or so after their weddings when their hair had reached the right length. We set up a Facebook page to share our progress and a Just Giving page to raise some money as each wig costs upwards of £350 to make. We reached this initial fundraising target of £1000 last month!