Our lovely modern bride Hannah is here to give you lovely brides and grooms to be some advice on how to choose a wedding date. Take it away, Hannah! :)
When we first got engaged, one of the biggest decisions my groom Mat and I struggled to make was choosing a wedding date. How do you go about picking what will be the most important day of your life? Some people find choosing a wedding date easy, but I thought I would do a little post on how I narrowed down my own date, for anyone who is struggling like I did.
Think of your budget
This may not be the most obvious factor when choosing a wedding date, but for us it became quite important. Mat and I had a long and honest chat before we started wedding planning about what budget we should realistically set. Once we agreed on a figure, we stuck to it. It’s easy when planning a wedding to overspend, but we were determined not to start married life in debt, even if it meant compromising on other things. We decided to have a two year engagement and marry in 2012. We figured this gave us enough time to save and book our preferred vendors.
So we knew the year, it was then on to the more difficult task of choosing the month…
I loved the idea of a summer wedding, but apparently so did everyone else! All the venues we looked at had significantly more expensive, hire fees for June-August nuptials. As Mat and I were funding the majority of the wedding ourselves we decided that we didn’t want to ‘blow’ our budget on the venue alone; if we waited a few more weeks and booked out of the traditional wedding season, we could have had the same wedding but for considerably less money.
So we ruled out a summer wedding and looked to the other seasons. Winter weddings are beautiful, but I hate the cold and wanted to at least have a chance of some warm sunshine, so we ruled out November-March. That left April, May or September and October.
Hurray! We were getting somewhere….
Look at significant dates
We started thinking about dates in our lives which had meaning to us, such as our anniversary and our parents and grandparents wedding anniversaries. We also noted family birthdays and wrote a few down to see if any would be compatible wedding dates. We did consider the 16th September, which was a significant date to us, but also coincided with a good friend’s wedding date so we ruled this out. I really liked the idea of marrying on one of our late grandparents wedding anniversaries, as it felt we were involving them the planning of it all, but it wasn’t to be.
We did see a pattern of lots of lovely family events happening in April, so we quickly decided that April may be the month for us. I love Spring and how it represents new beginnings, it was perfect symbolism for a wedding.
Narrow down the choices
So once we had our mind set on April we started to view venues. This gave us a good idea of which days they were booked and what may work for us. We decided early on that we were interested in having a mid-week ceremony; weddings on Friday-Sundays were too expensive for our tight budget and the venue we wanted, and bank holiday Mondays were just as bad. So we made a decision to have the ceremony Tuesday – Thursday. (I was a little worried at first that nobody would be able to come, but Mat persuaded me that we were giving plenty of notice and all the people that really mattered would definitely be going – as it was no-one turned us down and we had a full house on the day!) A mid-week do also meant that every single one of our chosen suppliers were free, and some even offered discounts! We decided to get married during April half-term, this meant our friends and family with little ones were more than likely to book time off work anyway and that no-one would need to take the kids out of school to come.
So that left April 10th, 11th or 12th…
Being as Monday 9th April was a bank holiday we decided to get married on the 10th, so everyone had an extra-long weekend! Once we had our date set, we sent out save the date cards, to give everyone plenty of notice. It was a really exciting time. Our wedding is being featured here on Friday so you’ll be able to see the fruits of our labour! :)
I hope this post has helped some of you today, if all else fails I’ve included some old school rhymes to help you pick!
Monday for health, Tuesday for wealth, Wednesday best of all
Thursday for losses, Friday for crosses and Saturday for no luck at all
Married when the year is new, he’ll be loving, kind & true
When February birds do mate, You wed nor dread your fate
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you’ll know
Marry in April when you can, Joy for Maiden & for Man
Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you’ll go
Those who in July do wed, must labour for their daily bred
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see
Marry in September’s shrine, your living will be rich and fine
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last.
Happy wedding planning,