Bride-to-be Charlie is in the final run up to her big day in September, eee! In the coming months she’ll be sharing some of her planning with you, via the all new feature – bride-to-be diary! This month she’s talking all about the invitations. Be sure to follow the blog to keep up with all her details! :)
Hello everyone! We’ve recently been printing our invitations, and if there’s one thing that throws up a lot of questions it’s wedding invitations. To invite or not to invite? Buy or DIY? UHU or Pritt Stick?
Our invitations proved to be a real labour of love (it doesn’t help that we are both perfectionists!), at one point I thought they would never be finished but they are, and we have started receiving RSVPs which is the most exciting thing to happen this year!
As you probably know I belong to a few wedding planning groups and something that comes up often is invitation drama: families insisting on certain people attending, brides unsure whether to invite so & so and who they’ll end up offending. We have been quite lucky in this respect, because we are paying for everything ourselves we haven’t had to bow to any family pressure over who or who not to invite. The only thing my Dad asked me was whether we were inviting his parents! Our budget has also stopped us from going overboard and we are only inviting close family and friends to the ceremony (and maybe just one or two who we think would make it more fun!) and venue numbers have stopped us from going overboard in the evening too. For those who are confused over who they should be inviting I came across this on a blog the other week and thought it might be helpful:
Source: www.ecw-weddings.co.uk, originally from Brides magazine
Once you are past that and know who you are inviting another question I have seen come up several times is: “What information should I include?” Now being the queen of Too Much Information I had to order extra card to include all the information that was VITAL for our invitations and couldn’t possibly have been found with a quick google search (not even that google map we included, obviously).
So here are a few things that I and some of my wedding buddies have included in our additional information:
Venue restrictions: Now these won’t apply to everybody but we decided to put in our invitations that Cardiff Castle does not allow confetti or rose petals in order to stop people from wasting their money.
Map & Directions: When I told my granddad that we were getting married he asked me to make sure that I gave him a map as he hasn’t driven to Cardiff for many years, so we spent time adapting a google map and writing directions and decided to put them in all of the invitations and then found out my granddad has decided to take the train. Ah well.
Hotel Information: Again this won’t apply to everyone but we have reserved rooms at a preferential rate for our guests and have added the booking information to the invitations. Some girls I know have included a list of hotels in the area.
Dress Code: Now I haven’t added this into our invitations, I am one of the many brides out there just trusting (perhaps foolishly) that none of our guests will turn up in jeans. I did love what my friend Karen put on hers though, her dress code is simply: “To the nines”, amazing!
Wedding Website/App info: We haven’t done this but I know it is increasingly common. I have just taken all the information that I could have put online once and printed it off on paper over 30 times, a sensible choice?
Gift List: This is one thing that can cause hours of agonising, it feels rude asking for gifts but if you don’t put it in then you will have about 90% of your guests asking what they can get you! I think the difficulty now is that most couples already live together by the time they get married so they don’t need the traditional kettle, toaster and pots & pans. It is getting more and more common to ask for money instead of gifts and this is what is making brides (and grooms) feel awkward. I did feel really cheeky putting it in ours but then I remembered how I felt when I received my last few wedding invitations with the same thing in and I was just glad that I could give the b&g what they really wanted. There are a few ways of doing it: some couples put in cute little poems which can take the edge off the whole asking for money, some just put in a straight to the point polite little note which in my opinion works just as well. We have put in a little note and a link to our Honeyfund page, a good way of asking for money but actually making the guest feel like they are buying you an ”item”.
Another thing we have done is ask the guests to arrive at a specified time half an hour before the ceremony. The reason for this is that with civil ceremonies (I’m not sure whether it is the same for religious) the registrars like the bride to arrive around ten minutes early so that they can do the pre-ceremony bit and I don’t want guests still arriving while this is going on as I will have nowhere to hide!
We have also asked guests to include on their RSVP (which seems to be getting increasingly common) a song choice so that we can make sure our dance floor is not empty, I’m looking forward to seeing what suggestions we get! We’ve already had a couple of crackers!
If you can think of anything I’ve missed I would love you to comment, even if it is too late for me!