Today we get to share Charlie’s, our former lovely Cwtch Girl, favourite memory of her and Marks big day.
Happy Anniversary guys!
When we decided our new midweek feature was going to be all about wedding memories I got a bit panicked because I knew it would soon be my turn to share mine. The problem with that is that my memories from my wedding day are all a bit hazy, and for once not through drink!
You know those cheesy TV programmes that use the wavy clouds around the edges just before going in to a dream sequence? That’s kind of how my wedding looks when I try and remember it, I know everyone says it but the day really does go by so quickly. The part of the day that I remember best was getting ready with my girls in the morning, I was very relaxed and had a brilliant morning (unlike poor Mark who got stuck in the barbers and ended up having to rush around!).
But when I think of my favourite part of the day it’s not so much one specific moment it’s more a series of moments all linked by a warm fuzzy feeling. The best parts of the day were all the cwtches, all the love, all the smiles on people’s faces and most of all taking a few moments alone with my new husband and saying “we did it”. It’s hard to put this into words without being ridiculously mushy so I will share with you some of my favourite photos by our amazing photographer Maria Farrelly, honestly I look at our photos all the time even nearly two years later. I can’t recommend her highly enough.
What a week at Cwtch HQ. Maria’s (Cwtch the ride realtor) birthday, which in turn lead to up climbing Pen Y Fan (we thought she did suggest cocktails when we said we’d do whatever she wanted for her birthday), National Cwtch Day, St Dwynwen’s Day and we announced the sale of #Cwtchfest2017 tickets! Wooooooo
As you know, the amazing wedding festival that is #Cwtchfest2017, will be held at the stunning St Fagans National History Museum. So how perfect is it that we get to have a little throwback to our very own #Cwtchfest Organiser, Lindsey’s big day to her Mark, where you can see how stunning St Fagans is as a wedding venue …
How would you describe your wedding theme? Relaxed tea party
What was your favourite part of your wedding? The vows and how much in that moment I felt how much I meant it and how much it meant to Mark. He’s only ever cried to the film Marley and me so to hear his voice trembling with emotion gave me goose pimples. I have felt in a little happy bubble ever since. Also, our band Raspberry Jam were sooo incredible, we love live music and they just blew everyone out the water.
Tell us about your Wedding Dress This is the point where I learnt Pinterest can be dangerous. I fell in love with a dress which I soon came to realise was a couture dress from a boutique in San Francisco. Very within my means. I probably drove my bridesmaids mad searching for something similar and to limit my choices it had to have sleeves! I found that the only place that exceeded my expectations of wedding dress shopping was Rachel Burgess Bridal Boutique in Penarth, I believed she really cared about making me feel like I wanted to feel in that dress. However, the dress I fell in love with was an Augusta Jones Mai dress from the lovely Laura May in Roath who were brilliant. My belt is my keepsake from the day made by Ashley from With Love from Bobbin it’s the only thing I’ve allowed myself to keep. I love it.
Who did you pick as your bridesmaids &/or best man and why? Mark had 3 best men as there was no choosing between them. They have been through thick and thin together. However they each had their own roles. Matt planned the stag, Jamie was at the end of the aisle with Mark and poor James got the speech.
I originally decided I would have no bridesmaids as I have a lot of very close friends and just didn’t know what to do. However, I read an article called ‘bridesmates’ and how since the recession brides have cut back on bridesmaids yet their friends are still bearing the stress and responsibilities and of course cost of being one. It quickly became apparent my four Cardiff girls were these girls they became my go to for everything I love them to bits!!
Why did you choose your venue? We debated for ages whether to have our wedding in St Fagans as it’s where I work but when viewing other venues I just found myself constantly comparing it to there. I also love the fact that we can take our kids there and can visit when we are older etc. Tell us about your wedding photographer:
From the second I saw Maria’s photography and met her I knew she had to be part of our day. Her love and enthusiasm shone through the way she spoke and her work. It was all I talked about with Mark that evening- I actually got up and danced when she said she had our date free.
It was really important to us that we did not spend hours having staged photographs and the results are stunning!! I cannot believe how Maria has captured the important moments in such a way that didn’t impact on the day and yet are still so beautiful.
As someone who works in the wedding industry I respect Maria’s professionalism and how much she cares for each and every client. I could not recommend anyone else more highly.
How did the proposal happen? Mark took me to Edinburgh for my 30th as a surprise. That in itself was a massive deal so I was blindsided when after climbing up to King Arthur’s seat on the morning of my 30th in the snow (after arguing all the way up as I kept falling as it was so slippery) with 2 plastic bottles of wine and strawberries he proposed. I made him call my dad straight away as he hadn’t asked permission and I know it would have meant a lot to my dad.
Any DIY stories/tutorials you’d like to share? Everything I did was DIY. As I work in my venue I knew I could do everything myself. Invites were done by my fabulous bridesmaid Lisa. Flowers were delivered in massive buckets on Friday morning and we spent all day doing arrangements. Jars were collected and decorated by friends for their wedding and donated to us. Tables runners were cut the night before. Table plan was written on a mirror night before.
I wanted it to be DIY to feel relaxed.
What was your first dance & why? We had no first dance. Music means a massive amount to both of us but neither of us wanted to do a first dance. So we didn’t.
In hindsight, was there anything you would have done differently? No we loved our day.
Do you have any advice for future couples? I meet so many brides who are stressed and do not enjoy the process of wedding planning. The only thing I can say is no one else knows what you have planned and what is supposed to happen when. Your friends and family will come have a great time and you will be in a big happiness bubble. The stuff people get stressed about does not matter.
What’s the best piece of marriage advice you received? To never take the other person for granted and to end every day with ‘I love you’
What was your favourite thing about planning a wedding? Realising how much I personally knew about weddings and how to save money but still get the look and feel I wanted. I’m a geek sometimes and my inner arty self loved being crafty and also saving pennies.
We all love this post – its brilliantly helpful when you’re looking for some inspiration on readings for your wedding that aren’t Corinthians! So here you go. First posted in 2013, our previous bride-to-be Charlie, now married and with a baby on the way, talked about picking readings for a non-religious ceremony. Over once again, to you Charlie…..x
Throw Back Thursday: A Selection of Non-Religious Readings
Hello lovely readers!
This week I am sharing with you some non-religious readings, a simple way of making a civil ceremony a lot more personal. Before I start, I almost feel like I should put a disclaimer on this post for those of you who have already selected your readings because of what happened to me!
Mark and I had chosen three readings, confirmed them with the registrar, found readers to read them and printed off our orders of ceremony and then about three nights before the wedding I came across this reading from Stardust (which was the first film Mark and I saw together- him under duress!) and I nearly cried because I loved it so much and couldn’t have it, so proceed with caution!
The Stardust reading
Yvaine: You know when I said I knew little about love? That wasn’t true. I know a lot about love. I’ve seen it; I’ve seen centuries and centuries of it. It’s the only thing that made watching your world bearable.
All the wars, pain, lies, and hate, made me want to turn away and never look down again. But to see the way that mankind loves! I mean you could search the furthest reaches of the universe and never find anything more beautiful.
So, yes I know that love is unconditional, but I also know it can be unpredictable, unexpected, uncontrollable, unbearable, and strangely easy to mistake for loathing. And, well, what I’m trying to say, Tristan, is.. I think I love you.
My heart it feels like my chest can barely contain it, like it doesn’t belong to me anymore; it belongs to you, and if you wanted it, I’d wish for nothing in exchange: no gifts, no goods, no demonstrations of devotion, nothing, but knowing you love me, too. Just your heart in exchange for mine.
As I mentioned above, we had three readings and I think they worked really well – we had a lot of comments about how personal our ceremony was and that was what I was hoping for. Deciding who will do the readings for you can be difficult! It is a daunting thing for some people to get up and speak in front of a room full of people and I know some people have found it hard to find willing volunteers!
Mark knew he wanted to ask his best man and as he’s a confident guy that was no problem, that left us with two. Initially I tested the water with my bridesmaids but as suspected they were all quite hesitant and I didn’t want anyone to do anything they weren’t totally comfortable with. I then thought about two other people close to me, my two cousins Jade and Amy. What with Amy being a teacher I was pretty sure that she would be fine, but Jade hates being the centre of attention so I was cautious about asking her but to my delight they both said yes and did an amazing job!
Dr Seuss fan’s this one is for you! Oh the places you’ll go makes a beautiful but light hearted reading, it is quite long though so you may want to have it abridged!
Do we have any couples with a Scottish connection? This is a great two person reading, with one person reading the application and one the appointment, preferably a married couple in my humble opinion:
Bidie-in by Diana Hendry and Hamish Whyte
O Let me be your bidie-in
And keep you close within
As dearest kith and kin
I promise I’d be tidy in
Whatever bed or bunk you’re in
I’d never ever drink your gin
I’d be your multi-vitamin
I’d wear my sexy tiger-skin
And play my love-sick mandolin
It cannot be a mortal sin
To be in such a dizzy spin
I’d like to get inside your skin
I’d even be your concubine
I hope you know I’m genuine
O let me be your bidie-in
Of course, you may be my bidie-in
You didn’t need to apply within
A braw new world’s about to begin
We’ll gang thegether through thick and thin
We’ll walk unscathed through burr & whin
If you’re to be my porcupin
I’ll just have to bear it and grin
I’ll be your sheik,your djinn
I’ll be yang to your yin
You’ll be my kitten,my mitten,my terrapin.
All night long we’ll make love’s sweet din
And never mind the wheelie-bin
In our romantic cinema there’ll be no FIN
And so I say again – you’re in- You’ve got the job of bidie in!
I absolutely love this one by Coulson Macleod, his typography prints are so beautiful! I also love this poem by Joyce Ebrecht, it makes me think of being an old married couple :) With that in mind I also found this one which brings tears to my eyes: The beauty of love.
If you are a book lover why not take an extract from your favourite book as a child? Even better if both of you have a favourite book and you can take a reading from each, I have seen it done with books such as Winnie the Pooh and The Velveteen Rabbit and I think it works so well.
I hope that by now you have found some inspiration but just in case you haven’t (as we are indeed a WELSH wedding blog!) I will leave you with the lovely Mi gerddi gyda thi complete with translation!
“Mi gerddaf gyda thi dros lwybrau maith
A blodau can a breuddwyd ar ein taith
I’th lygaid syllaf a dal dy law
Mi gerddaf gyda thi beth bynnag ddaw”.
“I will walk with you across distant paths
Flowers and dreams will bless our journey
Into your eyes I will gaze and holding your hand
I will walk with you whatever may come”.
Have you found readings that you love? Have you decided not to have readings? If you have any readings that I haven’t included (I know there are bound to be loads!) please share them in the comments box, I would love to read them and I’m sure our readers will too :)
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